‘Why isn’t this working for me?’
You’ve done everything right. Vision boards meticulously created. Affirmations diligently repeated. Meditation practiced daily. You’ve read all the books, followed all the gurus on Instagram, and implemented every manifestation technique that promised to transform your life.
Yet here you are, still waiting for your dreams to materialise.
If this sounds painfully familiar, I have news that might surprise you: the problem isn’t your techniques. The problem lies much deeper – in the hidden subconscious blocks that are silently sabotaging your every effort to manifest the life you desire.
These blocks are like invisible walls standing between you and your dreams. No matter how many positive thoughts you project or how many vision boards you create, if these walls remain intact, your manifestations will continue to feel just out of reach.
But here’s the good news: once you identify and dissolve these blocks, manifestation becomes not just possible, but inevitable.
In this troubleshooter guide, I’ll reveal four common challenges you might be facing and the stubborn blocks that are causing them in the areas of health, wealth, happiness and love. More importantly, I’ll share the exact solutions you can use to break through these barriers and finally start living the life you’ve been trying to manifest.
Health
Challenge: You can’t lose weight, or you can’t stay consistent on your wellness journey
Block: Subconscious fear of loss
Firstly, it’s essential to acknowledge that weight loss does not automatically equal health. That said, for many people, dropping a few pounds can be part of their wellbeing journey.
I’ve seen countless students fixate on their desire to lose weight, only to find themselves trapped in a frustrating yo-yo cycle – weight drops off, then creeps back on, again and again. If this sounds familiar, your subconscious mind’s programming is likely the root cause of what’s keeping you stuck.
Think about it like this: When was the last time loss was a positive experience in your life? Losing a parent. Losing your wallet. Losing a bet. Losing a job.
The concept of loss carries overwhelmingly negative associations. Your subconscious mind – which operates as an association machine – has stored loss as an experience to be avoided at all costs. So, when you focus on ‘weight loss’, your subconscious mind automatically labels these efforts as something dangerous and to be avoided.
If you’ve experienced this block in your health journey, the first step is to stop focusing on weight loss altogether and instead turn your energy to what you can gain from it. Replace your goal of losing weight with intentions such as gaining strength, increasing muscle, improving wellness, or, the subconscious mind’s favourite focus, increasing longevity.
When you stop fixating on loss and instead focus on what you have to gain, you get your subconscious mind on board and work with your programming to easily achieve your health desires.
Wealth
Challenge: You desire to feel abundant but feel anxious when checking your bank balance; looking at your money situation makes you feel stressed
Block: Scarcity mindset
Have you ever felt a surge of anxiety when you checked your bank balance? Do your shoulders tense when you think about money? These physical reactions reveal something crucial:
your subconscious mind has attached a feeling of scarcity and stress to your money story.
The good news? You can rewrite this story. One powerful approach is mental rehearsal – a technique that helps you create new, positive associations with money. Instead of anxiety, you can train you brain to feel calm, relaxed, and abundant when interacting with your finances.
The more you visualise something in your inner world, the more energy will flow toward that potential in the quantum field. Because where your awareness goes, your energy flows.
Try this simple visualisation daily before going to bed in the evening when you’ve wound down after the day:
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magine that you are on holiday right now. It’s hot and sunny, and you’re living your best life by the hotel pool and sipping a mocktail. As you enjoy a week off, you’re feeling extra calm because as you are living la dolce vita, you know that safe in your bank account is enough money for you to feel abundant and at ease.
What would your bank balance need to be for this scenario to be true for you? How much money would you need in your account for your nervous system to completely relax? Is it £500, £1,000, £10,000, £25,000, £50,000, £100,000, half a million, or a million?
Let your magnetic mind find the magic combination of numbers that evoke all those feelings, and then once you have those digits, write them down.
Now, take out your phone, open your online banking app, and go through the steps you would take to check your balance. As you do, take a mental note of the process. When you get to your current balance, ignore the numbers that are currently there and imagine the digits you just chose in their place.
Next, close your eyes and mentally replay the steps you took in your magnetic mind using the POV visualisation method. When you get to the visual of your bank balance, imagine seeing the digits that would make you feel instantly calm, relaxed and abundant, and embody those feelings now. As you do this, allow your shoulders to drop, your jaw to loosen, and your body to feel into the state of relaxation and abundance these digits represent for you.
Hold that feeling for 60 seconds, and then release it and let it go.
Practise this whenever you want to tap into the feeling of abundance. Allow this practice to inspire action to help you take the next step needed to manifest the digits you visualise into your reality.
Happiness
Challenge: You find yourself constantly postponing joy, thinking ‘I’ll be happy when…’ instead of finding happiness now
Block: Conditional happiness mindset
‘I’ll be happy when I get that promotion…’
‘I’ll be happy when I find the perfect relationship…’
‘I’ll be happy when I lose 20 pounds…’
If you’ve ever found yourself in the ‘I’ll be happy when…’ mindset, then you, my friend, have a happiness block that is holding you back from receiving the happiness that you seek.
Here’s a fundamental component of manifestation that many people miss: you must align with the energy you wish to experience now, not later. This means allowing yourself to feel the happiness,
joy, and gratitude you’re seeking externally first within yourself.
What you cultivate internally is what will be reflected externally. When you place conditions on your happiness – holding it hostage to future achievements – you’re actually sabotaging your manifestations and pushing them further away.
If you find yourself caught in conditional happiness, I recommend incorporating more gratitude into your life and getting those around you to join in on the habit.
Here’s a practice that I do every day with my partner in life, but you can do it with anyone that you talk to regularly, be it a best friend, your mother, or even a work colleague.
Here’s how it works: every day, start a conversation with your chosen gratitude accountability partner by asking, ‘What are you grateful for and why?’. Take turns sharing one thing each, then repeat three times (for a total of three gratitudes per person).
The real magic of this practice lies in the ‘why’ part. Don’t just name what you appreciate – really open up about the reasons you have gratitude for whatever it is you’re sharing. This forces you to focus on what’s present in your life right now, rather than what’s missing.
When we share gratitude and focus on the things that make us feel good, we allow ourselves to tap into the small joys that already exist in our daily experience. These simple moments of appreciation pull us out of the ‘I’ll be happy when’ trap and illuminate all the reasons we have to be happy right now, in the present moment.
Love
Challenge: You’re actively seeking a relationship, but you keep attracting people who aren’t looking for anything serious
Block: Lack of clarity and standards
Imagine walking into a restaurant, starving, and saying to the waiter, ‘I’m really hungry. Can I order some food?’
The waiter nods and hands you an extensive menu filled with delicious options. But, feeling lazy, you shrug and say, ‘Just bring me anything’. You sit back, waiting for your mystery meal.
Fifteen minutes later, the waiter returns with a tasting plate – tiny appetisers and hors d’oeuvres. While they’re nice, they don’t satisfy your hunger the way a full meal would. Disappointed, you eat them anyway.
As you get up to leave, the waiter asks, ‘Did you enjoy your meal?’
You hesitate and reply, ‘I was hoping for something a little more substantial.’
The waiter, slightly puzzled, responds, ‘I gave you a menu full of options. Next time, let me know what you’re craving, and I can bring you exactly what you want’.
Now, imagine that instead of food, you’re ordering love. And instead of a waiter, your cosmic concierge – the universe – is taking your request. The universe is eager to deliver your desires, but here’s the catch: just like the waiter, it can only work with the specific information you provide.
Vague requests = vague results. Specific requests = specific results. If you’re fuzzy, unclear, or worse, indifferent about what you truly want in a relationship, is it any surprise that you keep receiving a mixed bag of connections that leave you feeling unsatisfied?
Love isn’t about finding anyone – it’s about consciously choosing and getting crystal clear about what kind of relationship you truly desire. When you set precise intentions and unwavering standards, you instantly create the energetic space for the right person to appear.
So, next time you place your order with the universe, ask yourself: ‘Am I clear on what I desire?’ If not, it might be time to rewrite your menu and stop accepting love that won’t satisfy you.
To put this into practice, write down a list of what it is you are looking for in a relationship. What specific values and qualities are you looking for?
If your dream partner could be described in a menu, what would it say?
Once you’re crystal clear on the vision of what you’re looking to call in, your next job is to stop accepting or entertaining people who don’t align with what you are ordering from the universe. If you ordered a succulent ricotta and spinach ravioli with butter sauce and instead, a hamburger arrived, you would send it back and wait for the meal you ordered, right?
The same goes for potential romantic prospects. If you are calling in a tall, dark, and handsome family man who is conscious and emotionally mature, stop making plans with the 6-foot finance guy who is just looking for casual sex.
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